Once you leave a narcissist partner you really get to see narcissistic behaviour at it’s finest.
When you leave a narcissist, you will be met with denial from them, they are unwilling to accept it’s over between you, you don’t get to decide that, they do and if they are not finished with you, then you better look out.
If you have discarded them and this has come as a shock to them, as let’s face it the narcissist doesn’t believe anyone would ever want to leave them, they won’t accept that the relationship is over.
Fake promises to change will be thrown your way, this is all lies, a narcissist will never change.
They will promise you the world in order to grab the last morsel of fuel they can from you.
You now have the power, you left them, after seeing them for who they really are and they can’t stand this power change.
They fight back unfairly, the mask slips off, they are aware you know what and who they are now, they have nothing to lose, they want to cause as much destruction as possible to you.
Narcissistic behaviour is easy to spot
Unless you make yourself non accessible, they will attempt to hoover you back into a relationship, especially if the breakup came as a surprise to them and they have no other supply of fuel lined up ready to take your place.
If you were a good person, loved and cared for your narcissist and made them feel an important part of your life, made them a priority and catered to their needs then you are a great supply of fuel to them.
Your narcissist will receive a narcissist injury if you leave them and they avoid this at all costs.
To escape a narcissist relationship you must have no contact with them and stick to it, no phone calls, no texts, block them on all social media platforms and block their number from your phone.
If they turn up at your house or work of place, avoid talking to them and grey rock them, keep the words short, “leave or I will phone the police” usually works a treat.
Do not give them the chance to manipulate you.
Impose a zero contact policy
The no contact rule is hard to implement but zero contact is how you escape a narcissistic.
How can you drive your narcissist crazy? The no contact rule works, its the best way to get revenge as a narcissistic
Once your narcissist partner realises they are losing their grip
They will try to hoover you back in with the sole purpose of devaluing and discarding you, you hurt them and now they want to hurt you.
How could you not want them?
How dare you leave them?
There is nothing wrong with them, its all in your head.
Reinforce your boundaries and build your wall high
It could be days, weeks, months or even years when your narcissist partner creeps back into your life, but believe me, they will.
Till death do us part
Till death do us part is how a narcissist sees his narcissistic relationship.
You belong to them, forever theirs, and they will pick you up and put you down as and when they need your fuel.
What they do to make themselves feel better about being rejected is to invalidate you, telling themselves over and over again how worthless you are, you were not that great after all.
They can do so much better than you and they will.
They don’t need you in their life, you mean nothing to them.
Upon realising they fucked up and lost you they detach themselves from you, convincing themselves they were going to discard you soon anyway, you did them a favour.
But they will be back for you at a later date when they start to run out of fuel, usually when they can’t find a new supply or discover their new supplies fuel cant match yours.
What is narcissistic fuel?
The narcissist actually seeks out high-empathy individuals to supply this delicious, exceptional quality ego fuel. If you are an individual who happens to be intuitive, empathic, compassionate, authentic, and a person of integrity, often narcissists will target you for
Whether in work, love or family relationships, it is the reaction of a caring individual that fills the psychic void of the narcissist parasite, because the abuser lacks those very qualities and is, in essence, seeking to absorb the exquisite emotional fuel from their host. Those abusers who tend toward the malignant end of the scale of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) deliberately seek to cause harm in a sadistic fashion so as to extract the NS of their love objects/subordinates/family members.
They actually take pleasure in emotionally abusing a supply-source after a period of seduction/infatuation/love-bombing.
Those abusers who are more garden-variety narcissists may not operate consciously to cause intentional harm high-grade if emotional reaction fuel is available, then it will be taken and lapped up eagerly should the opportunity present itself. (narcissistic supply explained)
You have caused a
When the narcissist finally realises that your boundaries are firmly in place and you have discarded them and are moving on with your life this narcissistic injury is unbearable to them.
They will start a smear campaign against you, telling whoever will listen how cruel and crazy you are, anything to make themselves look the victim.
They desperately need attention, negative or positive , it doesn’t matter which, both are fuel to the narcissist.
It is during this time you will see the destructiveness of narcissistic behaviour as they lash out and drown
Narcissists are very self destructive
You must remember that the tough exterior of the narcissist is fake, they are a child on the inside, weak and vulnerable, suffering a narcissistic injury can be brutal.
They can not emotionally control their feelings and this can make them dangerous, witnessing narcissistic rage can be frightening, narcissistic behaviour is both mentally and physically scary.
Narcissists need to recover
You may find it hard to believe but narcissists are human too and after you discard them they too need time to heal and recover, just like you do.
Desperately trying to gain attention from others, they will flirt and put on their amazing charm to source out a new supply of fuel.
You will soon be replaced.
They are mentally weak creatures with low self-esteem and confidence and they rely on a supplies fuel to survive.
Making up their own stories to cover up the harsh reality of who they are.
Needing to validate themselves they repeatedly say things like:
“I’m a great person”
“I’m really soft on the inside”
“I do good things for people”
They need people to like them, to feel important and special.
They need a supply of fuel at all times, they cant go without for very long and become very reckless and destructive as their remaining fuel runs out.
They are a vulnerable lost child trapped in an adults body, they are very fragile underneath the surface.
Witnessing narcissistic behaviour can be frightening after you leave them, so stay away from them and begin to heal and recover, gain back the strength they sucked from you.
The best revenge is to move forward, find happiness and thrive in life without them.
Have you ever witnessed narcissistic behaviour?