I won’t lie, the no contact rule sucks big time, I am into day 3 of ignoring my ex and I am torn in two.
Feeling like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders one moment to an intense empty feeling in the pit of my stomach the next.
The no contact rule is hard to do, I can clearly see now why there were so many women admitting to trying this but failing.
I had researched the easiest and quickest way to get over my narcissistic ex and this method was at the top of the list.
After watching a multitude of videos highlighting how the no contact rule works I began doing it myself.
Cutting off contact with the man you love hurts
I didn’t want to leave him, I didn’t want our relationship to end but I had no choice, he was a narcissist and I was trapped in a fake relationship.
Feeling stupid is an understatement right now
Foolishly I fell head over heels in love with this man, believing I had met my soul mate.
And yes for over a year now I have craved those first few months I spent with him, he love bombed me perfectly and I fell for it.
I was treated like a princess at the very beginning of the relationship.
Everything soon came crashing down around me.
The lies were the last straw, he told so many of them and even when I produced hard faced facts to him to prove I knew he was lying, he said I was making it all up.
I questioned my own sanity, he had me believe things he said or did had not happened.
Why the narcissist lies
Why no contact is so difficult
I admit that yes the no contact rule works and I know
I am addicted to a man who is toxic.
So used to hearing from him, I find myself looking at my phone too often, half hoping and half dreading seeing a text message from him.
Being so used to waking to find a good morning message from him if he hadn’t stayed over, I miss those the most, instead I feel a sinking feeling inside when I reach for my phone the moment I open my eyes and see a blank screen.
No contact with a narcissist is heaven and hell combined.
Just as soon as I feel the relief of the freedom I now have, I feel angry that he hasn’t even bothered to ask why I am ignoring him.
I feel myself getting angry at him, how could he just let me walk away without fighting for me, fighting for us, did I mean so little to him?
But then reality hits, I remember he’s a narcissist and the only thing he misses is the fuel I gave to him and right now he’s quiet because I gave him a good piece of my mind (via text before I started no contact) and he’s punishing me for it.
Strangely the narcissist is well known to love to implement no contact on
Believe it or not, this is just one of the many signs of gaslighting and you will notice if you’re in a toxic relationship with an abusive
No contact is going to help me heal
Knowing that remaining in no contact is the only way I will heal from the narcissistic abuse, I am determined to remain strong.
The only way I can gain some clarity and begin to gain some strength back is too stay the hell away from him and not have any communication with him at all.
But he is my drug and I am addicted and I am suffering from withdrawal symptoms.
Have you tried the no contact rule? Share your own experience …..